Friday, June 28, 2013

WHAT IS REAL LOVE?

Real love is something so deep, so energizing, that you will not know it unless you experience it. Love is an expression of energy, not something that is transacted. Tell me one thing: can you love people when you meet them for the first time? (From the audience: No Swamiji! We don’t even know them, then how can we love them?)

Exactly! This is what you think. Let me tell you, with a little bit of intellectual understanding andmeditation, you will realize that you can love anyone without a reason, causelessly! You can love the trees on the road, you can caress them and feel the energy flow from you. You can love people whom you pass by on the road without even knowing them. Love is actually your very being, not a distilled quality that you possess.

Nothing is as misconstrued as love is today. Today, love is more of a transaction. If someone says something nice to you, you love him; tomorrow if the same person falls short of it, you don’t love him that much or you probably hate him.

Even your lifelong friend, with whom you chat everyday on the computer, will seem suddenly not-so-close if he says something that goes against your approval. Where is your love at this time? It has suffered temporarily!

It is just games that you play; a game in which love and hate surface alternately and interchangeably. And this love-hate relationship is not love at all. Be very clear. It is simply your reaction to a person or a situation, that’s all. This is what we call love. This is not real love. It is subjective love, that’s all.

Real love knows no object. It is simply there whether there is an object or not. Real love is the subject itself. It does not know any object. You are the subject and you have become love, that’s all. Any object that comes in touch with it, feels it. Just like a river flows naturally and people enjoy it at the different places that they encounter it, real love exudes from a person and the people around him will be able to feel it.

There is absolutely no room for conditioning in real love. The energy in you should overflow and express itself as love. It is then that you can break through the highly knotted boundaries of relationships and express yourself beautifully, as a loving being!

In order to discover the quality of your being, that is love, two things can be done. The first thing: repeatedly listen to words like these so that they create a conviction in you about real love; so that a space is created in you for the process of transformation. Second thing: meditate so that the transformation can actually happen.

In practical life, when you go deeper and deeper into relationships, you will understand that all that you feel is not real love, but just some form of give and take. It is all just adjustment, some compromise, some duty-bound feelings, some fear, some guilt. It is all there in the name of love.

Meditation will take you beyond these mis-understandings of love. Meditation will work at the being level. That is why it is a shortcut! When you have to go through life and know it by yourself, it will take you a lifetime. But withmeditation, a space opens inside you to experience these things clearly for yourself, whatever your age may be.

Just understand this one thing: when you are able to love without a reason, you will expand like anything. Your world will suddenly seem larger than life. It will be so ecstatic. You will become an energy source to yourself and to others. You will be so overflowing that the energy in you has to touch others. There is no other way. Others will be naturally drawn to you.

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Hajui ukipatacho, haelewi thamani yake ndiyo maana anakwambia hakufai- 2

Nimekuwa nikilieleza hili mara kwa mara kwamba mapenzi yanapoangaliwa kila upande, unakuja kupata jibu kwamba hakuna uhusiano uliokamilika. Muhimu kwako ni kumkubali mwenzi wako kama alivyo na kumpa heshima yake ya asimilia mia moja.

Kumkubali ni kutambua ujazo wake moyoni mwako. Hapa nikiwa na maana kwamba wewe mwenyewe unakuwa umejiridhisha kuwa unampenda kwa alama zote, hivyo umeamua kufanya naye maisha.

Uvumilivu unahitajika kwa kila mmoja, lakini busara iliyo wazi ni kwamba hutakiwi kuishi kwa kutazama makosa ya mwenzi wako. Mwisho wa siku naye ni binadamu, kwahiyo unaishi na kiumbe chenye damu na moyo, siyo malaika.

Unashauriwa kumtambua mwenzi wako kwa jinsi alivyo na kujua jinsi ya kurekebisha kasoro zake. Uwe wa kwanza kujua udhaifu wake na kumkosoa kwa vipimo, siyo kwa sababu Mungu amekujalia mdomo na sauti ndiyo kila siku upayuke.

Una kila sababu ya kuzungumza na kutaka ushauri kuhusu mwandani wako lakini siyo nidhamu ‘kumvua nguo’. Hapa napitisha hoja kuwa kutoa kipaumbele kwa mwenzi wako ni sehemu ya nidhamu ya kimapenzi.

Wiki iliyopita nilikuonesha mifano. Unatakiwa ujiridhisha mwenyewe kuwa pamoja na kasoro zake bado anastahili kupewa hifadhi ya moyo wako. Lakini kuna huyo anayekuambia uachane naye. Je, unampa nafasi gani?

Jibu unalo, lakini kwangu nikikushauri kitaalamu kama muongozo ni kuwa unatakiwa uangalie moyo wako unakupa jibu gani kuliko kusikiliza rafiki anachosema. Ujazo wake kwenye moyo wako haujui na hatambui ni kiasi gani utaathirika ukimkosa.

Je, rafiki anakuja na hoja au ngonjera? Anaponda badala ya kukupa njia ya kufanya. “Ooh, achana naye, kwanza yule malaya sana atakuua.” Somo hili likupe sababu ya kuwaona marafiki wenye uelewa wa hisia kwa sababu utakapokosa usingizi usiku kwa sababu ya mawazo hatakuwepo.

Kama mwenzi wako hafai au anafaa, jibu lipo ndani ya kuta za moyo wako. Ndiyo maana linapokuja suala la kupokea ushauri wa kimapenzi, unatakiwa umuone mtu ambaye ana sifa ya kutoa ushauri. Tafuta washauri na siyo wapondaji.

Unaweza kuwaazima masikio marafiki zako, wakampaka mwenzi wako badala ya kukupa ufumbuzi wa kile kinachokusumbua. Mwisho ukaona yao ni mazuri halafu kwa hasira ukafikia uamuzi wa kuachana naye, utajuta baadaye. Itakutesa zaidi baada ya kubaini kuwa mmoja wa waliokuwa wanamponda ndiye kamchukua.

MJALI MWENZI WAKO KULIKO CHOCHOTE
Hiyo ni nidhamu kuu. Hapo unashauriwa kitaalamu kuwa mwenzi wako kama mtu ‘spesho’ zaidi wa maisha yako, unapaswa kwenda naye kwa maewaleno. Kusikilizana na kupeana muongozo wa kila siku katika maisha.

Fikiria kuwa una marafiki wengi, ndugu na jamaa mlioshibana lakini mwishoni unapotaka kulala, hurejea nyumbani na kujifunika shuka moja na mwenzi wako. Bila shaka unaona ni kwa namna gani huyo anashikilia kipengele nyeti cha maisha yako.

Dunia katika pointi ya maradhi, hususan Ukimwi na magonjwa mengine ya ngono, ni yeye ndiye anayeweza kukuweka huru. Damu yako ikawa salama, kwani kinyume chake asipokuwa makini, anaweza kuchetuka, akachetukia maradhi, mwisho wa siku akakuletea gonjwa uhangaike nalo.

Kwa maana hiyo ni mlinzi wa maisha yako. Unalala fofofo karibu yake na mpo wawili tu chumbani, ukiamka hujikuti na jeraha lolote. Usipomjali mtu wa namna hiyo unataka thamani yake ukampe nani?

Kuna kundi la watu huwatanguliza marafiki kuliko wenzi wao. Yaani katika pande mbili, mwenzi wako anasema hili, halafu wewe unasikiliza neno la rafiki kwanza. Hilo ni kosa kubwa ambalo ni rahisi kuyeshusha upendo.

Ni bora unapoona mwenzi wako anaongea kitu ambacho unaona hakifai, utumie muda wako kumuweka sawa na akuelewe. Usithubutu kufanya kinyume chake kama hakuelwi. Mwisho kabisa, ukiona mwenzio ana wasiwasi, jiepushe na hicho anachokihofia au mfanye aondoe mashaka.

Mwenzi wako anahisi kuna mtu unatoka naye kimapenzi. Fahamu kuwa hilo linamtesa moyoni, huwezi kujua kaambiwa na wangapi mpaka akaja kukuuliza. Zifanye fikra zake ziwe huru kwa kumuelewesha mpaka aelewe au jiepushe na huyo mtu.

Itaendelea wiki ijayo…

Chuki kwa mwenzi wako wa zamani haina faida, unapoteza muda

MAPENZI yana siri kubwa. Kila mmoja ana ugonjwa wake wa kupenda. Wengine wanawapenda wapenzi warefu, lakini kuna kundi ambalo huchanganyikiwa zaidi kwa wafupi. Pamoja na mchanganuo huo, kuachwa inauma hata kama anayekutosa hukuwa na mapenzi naye.

Ile dhana tu ya kuachwa ndiyo hutesa watu. Kuna dhana kwamba anayeacha mara nyingi hujiona mshindi dhidi ya aliyemuacha. Na hiyo ndiyo sababu ya wengi kuumia wanapofungiwa milango ya kukatisha uhusiano ambao pengine hata hawakuwa na maslahi nao.

Watu wanaingia kwenye mapenzi na baadaye wanatengana. Wapo wanaobaki na amani, lakini wengine wanaendelea kuishi katikati ya chuki.
Husalimiani na mwenzi wako wa zamani, mbaya zaidi pengine huyo uliye na uhasama (bifu) naye, mmefanikiwa kupata mtoto pamoja. Usiangalie moyo wako, zingatia ukuaji wa mwanao.

Hapa nifafanue kitu kimoja kwamba sifundishi watu kuwakaribia wenzi wao wa zamani, la hasha! Nashauri kutowekeana uadui kwa sababu hauna maana.
Mtaalamu mmoja wa saikolojia ameandika: “Moja kati ya njia rahisi ya kupoteza muda wako ni kumchukia mwenzi wako wa zamani.” Binafsi nakubali, kwa nini ujenge bifu na mtu aliye nje ya mzunguko wako wa maisha?

Naweza kuelewa kwamba kumchukia mtu ambaye hayupo tena kwenye mzunguko wa maisha yako, ni kama hatua ya kujipa maumivu ya moyo au huzuni isiyo na sababu.
Ukimchukia mwenzi wako wa zamani, maana yake unaendelea kumhifadhi kwenye moyo wako. Aghalabu utakumbuka mabaya yake lakini kuna vipindi vichache ambavyo mazuri yake yatakujia.

Endapo kuna mambo yake mazuri yatakuja kwenye ubongo wako, yatakutesa. Utakumbuka namna alivyokujenga kimahaba, si ajabu utamkumbuka tena na kuanza kuhisi kumkosa.
Njia rahisi ni kuhakikisha moyo wako unakuwa mweupe. Unaachana na kumbukumbu zote. Funga ukurasa wa zamani na ufungue mpya. Maisha yaendelee, Lady Jaydee aliimba Siku Hazigandi, wazungu wanasema life goes on.

Hatari kubwa katika chuki yako kwa mwenzi wako ni kuendelea kujipa maumivu ambayo si ajabu yatakuja kukusababishia ujione wewe bila yeye ni sawa na kukabiliana na kifo.
Kinyume cha mapenzi siyo chuki. Ni kutojali (kupotezea). Yaani unapokosana na mwenzi wako, usianze bifu, badala yake anza kumpotezea na usimjali kwa chochote.

Tafsiri nzuri ya kumchukia mwenzi wako wa zamani maana yake bado unampenda na bado unahitaji kuendelea naye.
Watu wengi wanatangaza kuachana na wenzi wao lakini wanaendelea kudumisha ukaribu bila sababu za msingi, ingawa kuna uwezekano mkubwa mioyo yao ndiyo inayowatuma.

Kwa taarifa ni kwamba kitendo cha kuendelea kuwa karibu na mwenzi wako wa zamani, maana yake unakaribisha fursa ya wewe na yeye ya ama kukumbushia au kurejea upya kwenye mapenzi.
Tafsiri nyingine ni kwamba ile chuki ambayo wewe unakuwa nayo inatokana na ukweli kwamba unahitaji aje kwako lakini unaona wazi kuwa hana mpango nawe hata kidogo.

Ukweli ni kwamba wewe mwenyewe utajiona umebeba mzigo wa usumbufu kumchukia mpenzi wako wa zamani ambaye huna ukaribu naye.
Kwa mwanamke, nafasi kubwa kwake katika maisha yake, mara mnapoachana, atatengana na wewe kwa sababu maalumu. Ukionesha nia ya kuendelea naye, atarejea kwako kwa ari zaidi.

Unatakiwa kwenda mbele kukabiliana na matukio mapya ikiwa unaumizwa na machungu ya kuachana na mwenzi wako.

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Friday, June 28, 2013

WHAT IS REAL LOVE?

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